A man sets his eyes on you, and you can tell by his facial and body expressions that he obviously thinks you are attractive. He approaches you and starts his typical presentation of how beautiful you are and how much he wants to get to know you.
What are you thinking at the moment? “Ah, here we go…another one of “those” guys.” Another one of those guys who has the stereotypical intentions that do NOT involve anything pure, right? But maybe, just maybe, he is different. You decide to give him your phone number.
You guys start talking. He offers these empty promises that get your emotions stirred up. You start dating this guy who has proven to you that he is not like the rest of “those guys.” You begin to think that this is too good to be true.
Within a few months he is more charming by the second.
Now all this time those protective walls you have had up—those walls that took months and months, maybe years to develop—have slowly been chiseled away. What now?
As time goes by, the more you become involved with this guy, the more bricks fall.
Suddenly the walls crumble like the walls of Jericho. The relationship has gone from holding hands, to cuddling, to kissing, to lying down with him. After it is all said and done, you are thinking:
“I should have waited.”
Yes, I am a guy. No, not all stories end like this one. But, how many times have you opened yourself up to a guy, either emotionally or physically, and regretted it later? How many times have you convinced yourself that he was “the one,” knowing in your heart of hearts that he was not? How many times was he NOT the one?
Now, let us examine where you may have gone wrong.
The only reason I have any idea about these circumstances is because I was on the other side of this equation. I was one of “those guys.”
Before I met Christ, I was one of those guys who whispered sweet nothings to get what I wanted at the moment.
So on behalf of all men, I apologize to those ladies who have been hurt by men who have done things to tear down your walls and take advantage of you. I am deeply sorry.
You are worth so much more.
No matter how much you have been hurt, you are worth so much more. Those high standards you may have set are not too high. They are just right. Those men you have turned down or have walked away because of your high standards are not worth your time.
Do not let loneliness make you compromise your standards and God-given convictions. If a man does not see the value in you just as much as God says in His word, he is not worth your time.
God thinks so highly of you, as evidenced by this scripture.
Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him. Genesis2:18 (AMP)
To God, you were His choice and His remedy to cure the loneliness man was experiencing.
You are worth more than the most expensive things on earth.
Proverbs 31:10 says:
An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. (NLV)
No materialistic thing is worth more than you. You are precious, valuable, and beautiful. These words are God’s view of you. Why settle for anything less?
In closing, you may be wondering how a man can possibly meet your standards and God’s words concerning you.
The answer is, he cannot…at least not alone.
He needs the help of the same God that views you so highly. He needs the wisdom, the love, and maturity of God Himself through the Holy Spirit.
I love the quote by Maya Angelou, “A woman’s heart must be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him to find you.”
So you are probably asking, what now? What must I do?
Seek God. Focus on God. Keep falling in love with God.
Proverbs 31:30 says:
Charm and grace are deceptive, and beauty is vain [because it is not lasting], but a woman who reverently and worshipfully fears the Lord, she shall be praised! (AMP)
Instead of praying for a husband, continue to value yourself. Pray that you will maintain those high standards, and, someday, be the wife that God wants you to be.
Allow God to write your love story.
You ARE worth the wait.