“Let us walk properly as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and sensuality, not in quarreling and jealousy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.” Romans 13:13-14
There’s a war for the hearts of young women. It’s a battle permeated with lies about our worth and purpose. Young Christian teens are being preached to by the lives of popular Christian girls on Instagram, telling them that you can love Christ and yet still dress like the world.
The Bible doesn’t have a ton to say about modesty and there definitely aren’t any specific rules. This makes it a hard topic to approach. Since God is sovereign over his Word, he must have done this for a reason.
Throughout Scripture, we see God calling us to put on or clothe ourselves with good things. Compassion, kindness, humility to name a few (Colossians 3:12). Ultimately, he wants us to put on the Lord Jesus. If we adorn ourselves in Christ, we will naturally dress in “respectable apparel, modesty and self-control” (1 Timothy 2:9).
So, what is “respectable apparel”? Scripture doesn’t give any clues about appropriate hem lengths or rules about skin exposure. It doesn’t say we have to dust the floor with our skirt and never show a shoulder either. There aren’t written rules because Christ should rule our heart, which, in turn, rules our fashion.
Whether a person is clinging to sensuality or holding to man-made rules, both reflect a heart that isn’t ruled by or clothed in Christ.
There are a lot of voices telling women to cover themselves due to male struggles against lust. While I believe we should prefer our brothers in Christ and strive to dress in a way that respects them, modesty isn’t about men. And it’s not about you either. It’s about honoring the God who created you.
As Christians, how we dress reflects the God we claim. Are we reflecting the image of the one true God or a marred version?
Father, we are so often drawn to the world or to rule-keeping. We don’t like the discomfort of the gray areas. I pray that You’d captivate our hearts and lead us to be clothed in true modesty that comes from a heart which is clothed in Jesus. Convict us of anything in our closet that isn’t pleasing to You and help us to see areas where we’ve created rules that don’t exist. May we honor You in all we do, say and wear. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Pray for God to reveal to you any ways you may be believing lies about modesty. Purge your closet of anything that wouldn’t please him.