“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” Ephesians 5:22-23 ESV
We have all been there–a popular blog, television show, or friendly conversation–where submission is mentioned and usually frowned upon. It’s frequently followed up by thinking submission is the husband controlling his wife, or a question for God: “why would He force women to submit to men? He’s being completely unfair, so therefore submission is something I can just put to the side.” And even better, an applause to feminism, praising women for being the independent, strong, don’t-need-no-man creatures that we are.
As a woman, this should give me a breath of relief. The further I drift from submission, the easier my life becomes. After all, I don’t have to go day-by-day with the weight of my husband’s “demands” on my shoulders. With the feminist movement being at its peak, dealing with this topic is touchy and downright scary. But God’s perfect design of creation, once understood in its entirety, is beautiful and welcoming (yes, even to women). Marriage is a perfect example of the Gospel: Christ being crucified without blame and dying for His Bride, the church. A man and a woman, becoming “one flesh”, as Christ is with the church. But marriage also points to submission. As the church submits to Christ, also the wife should submit to her husband. It’s a beautiful illustration, and it points to a greater glory. To affirm the supremacy of Christ is to affirm that Jesus is God. This is what Paul is talking about in Ephesians 5.
As Christian women, we should be proud of submission and the role it brings. To neglect this topic is to neglect God’s beautiful design of creation and His perfect and orderly roles. It does not undermine women; it is not unfair or unjust; it is not demanding. This topic is so popular in today’s society. Be the voice of love and admiration of the Father. Know His word, and know your role…and embrace it ever so fully.
Father, I pray You would give me wisdom and understanding when it comes to my design and my role as a wife and a woman. Help me to turn to Your word for knowledge and to see the beauty in submission. Amen.
Do you struggle with the thought of submission and your role in marriage? Reflect on 1 Peter 3:1-6.