The heart of a godly mother is a rare treasure in this day and age. Here in Proverbs 31, one of the most famous passages of Scripture for women, we find the mother of King Lemuel pleading with her son to walk in an upright manner and be mindful of his ways. His strength and his youth are not to be wasted on strange women or ways that have led many of kings to destruction (Proverbs 7: 2-3). The drunkenness of leaders leads to perversion of laws and for the cries of the innocent to fall on deaf ears (Proverbs 7:4-5). Leaders that walk in an upright manner and speak on the behalf of the speechless reflect the good commandments of the Lord. They reflect the moral code that God has written on their hearts, and by His good grace, have allowed to be manifested on the outside (Proverbs 31:8-9).
We see how Lemuel’s mother longed for her son to be this kind of king, and even more so, she longed to see a woman of noble character reigning by his side. Yes, the Proverbs 31 woman we all know, and some love, was a queen among her people. A queen that Lemuel’s mother envisions for her son displays a different sort of godly characteristics. She reflects a character who cares for her household, guards her husband’s heart, and works diligently with strength and dignity. Who is this woman? She is a woman who fears the Lord, and she lives her life in a reverent awe of Him (Proverbs 31:30).
Building up Her Husband and Household
Along with the rarity of a godly mother, the search for a wife who is righteous is a great expedition for any man seeking a wife. Indeed, he who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22), and what an extreme favor it is to find a wife whose heart has been changed for God. She is a woman whom her husband can trust his heart to, knowing she will protect it and guard it warmly (Proverbs 31:11). She seeks to do good to her husband, out of an overflow from the goodness she has been shown from the Lord (Proverbs 31:12). She does not tear him down with her words, nor does she usurp him in disrespect. She builds up her husband as well as her household (Proverbs 14:1). A woman who tears down her household strips the security her husband feels in her and spurs the gift that God has given her in him. A wife should be a good thing for her husband, not a regret.
Virtuous in and out of the Home
Though it is a desire for many, not all wives are called to be in the home and not in the work place as we have seen in many families…but the affairs at home are not neglected. Whether the Proverbs 31 woman provides for it or not, food is made ready for her household, and she ensures that all are fed in her home (Proverbs 31:14). There is also careful consideration on the affairs of the household and preparation for any event or season (Proverbs 31:15-16,21-25,27). Neither her husband or children are neglected in these things – for they both praise her efforts and work. They see that they point to a service beyond themselves…to a service given to One greater than they (Proverbs 31:28-29). Her children see God’s hand of favor on her, and her husband sees how she stands out among all other women. In Christ, this woman has received the favor of God, and His eye of approval is on her as well. She is blessed beyond comprehension.
Marriage Is Not a Requirement
The absence of marriage or children does not disqualify a woman of God to be a virtuous woman. Whether you have the title of mother or wife or neither, you are called to be a woman who fears the Lord and walk in an upright manner before Him. Sister who is single, your marital or parental status does not exclude you from being a woman that pleases God. Are you in Christ? Have you been born again? Then you are in God’s favor. Christ has won that for you. Married or not, walk in the strength and dignity He has clothed you in, and make your arms strong in the work He has prepared for you (Proverbs 31:17). Find your joy in Christ, and face the future with it, knowing that He promises to never leave you nor forsake you (Proverbs 31:25, Deuteronomy 31:6). Wisdom is from the Lord, and in His grace, we can be daughters of wisdom, with words of kindness and knowledge on our lips to teach the generation that comes after us (Titus 2:3-5). This a charge for women, single and married alike. A godly woman is a rarity in this generation, and as time goes by, will become even more scarce. Let’s be the anomalies. Let’s be women of wisdom!